You are allowed to break your promises
Some of them
Happy happy new year my friend. May 2026 give you all that you are looking for and more <3
Today I want to begin with a quality of a lot of people, that eventually becomes a flaw:
The quality of keeping your commitments.
If you are an A-type person, or someone who respects your time, you will make sure you honour your commitments.
That said, sometimes it is wiser to also not honour your commitments. Especially if they drain your energy.
For example, a couple of months back it was an extended relative’s birthday. I was having a very busy day so I texted them, saying I will certainly call them later. But I did not call them later, because they always drain my energy. At least it has been happening a lot lately. I legit ghosted them, if you can use that term here.
So here is a thumb rule I have come up with:
If it is a professional commitment, take 20% more time and always fulfil your promises.
If it is a personal commitment, make time and fulfil your promises.
If it is any sort of commitment that drains your energy, then:
For a personal commitment, it is okay to not honour it. In an ideal scenario and if possible, please have a conversation.
For a professional commitment, try communicating what you are thinking. And think better the next time.
In life, your goal is to find out the exceptions to the norms you have set for yourself. While you continue to honour those norms.
When was a time you wanted to break a commitment but could not, because you always keep your promises? What did you learn from that and today’s post put together? Do let me know in the email responses/comments. I read every one of them.
Happy new year again, my friend. I’ll see you next week.
(PS: This is part 1 of a 4-part series of shorter Raw and Real editions in January 2026. We will get back to deeper Raw and real conversations, Raw one liners and Real funsies starting February 2026)
Nishtha Gehija
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