Here's my biggest superpower
(beyond hard work, luck and gratitude)
Raw and Real Conversation
Yo friend,
There have been times I have been waiting for success to happen, and it has come a bit late. Or sometimes it hasn’t showed up in the first place!
And when it has eventually come, I am ultra-grateful for it to finally be with me.
My life has been nothing of magic.
But what I know for sure, and for sure, is that I am very very careful of the conversations I have with myself and others.
I never say:
I was unlucky and they got lucky, so they are supposed to succeed.
Because you don’t treat me well, our friendship is bound to falter.
She has a rich father and a US visa, she can do whatever she can and get whatever she wants.
I am always making sure that whatever I say has the power to come true, and I am making sure the right conversations go inside.
Does not mean I do not feel negative. I do. But I know that blaming others is getting us nowhere.
So I vent out everything I want in a journal, do that over and over again if the negative feelings are too much, and then get practical and solve things - whether it is with people or individually.
Let me confess, it isn’t easy.
But you know what’s harder? To live in a bubble of undermining words, undermining emotions, and self-deprecating conversations, and then think why good things aren’t happening to you!
Bro, good things ain’t happening to you because the conversations that go on between your two ears!
So the first way (and the most important one) to change your outer world is to change what is going on in your inner world.
As easy and attainable as it sounds, when people have to change, they don’t. Which automatically gives people like you the leverage to change, because otherwise you won’t be reading this email today.
Here are the smallest ways to get started to take care of your conversation, something that has helped me:
Think of the smallest place where you are most likely to get critical to yourself. It could be sleeping late when you want to sleep early.
Decide NOW what you will say to yourself when you do falter. For example, you might say: “Okay, I tried and I didn’t rise early. How can we fix this? Can I sleep early? Can I meditate a few minutes before sleeping? Can I get rid of devices before sleeping?”
When you have your answer, you now know the practical plan to fix your problem, instead of cringing at it.
Now, just say it my friend.
This might look very small, but life is indeed made of small things.
Small decision to get out of your bed and workout.
Small decision to switch your career because you now know is the right time.
Small decision to never think about your ex or your ex boss again, because guess what, you just decided to stop being your own enemy!
All it takes is just one small decision, made in a seemingly insignificant moment over time, that leads to a life full of complains or a life you carefully create.
My wish for you, is you create the latter. Because you are anyway creating a life of complains as well. So why not make the best of it?
So go out there my friend, and amp up your conversations!
And never lose hope in yourself. Everyone is in a journey. At some point even I was a ranting, complaining cat. But it took me some failures to realise that it only makes my life worse.
The last thing I want.
The last thing you want.
As a popular song goes:
Just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down
In a most delightful way
Your spoonful of sugar, is your internal dialogue. Master it, and you get to become extremely positive about life. Trust me on this. Comes from daily experience :))
Raw lessons of the week:
Protect your time. Prosper your life.
Do the hard thing to avoid doing the harder thing.
The world belongs to those who plan their days, and not live them on autopilot.
Real Gratitude of the week:
I got an unexpected negative news at work last week, something that shook me for a few hours. But the fact that I did not react to it, or to the work partner blaming them, is something I am superproud of. I had all the evidences to confront them, but then I thought, I do not want to establish anything because there ain’t a future path together at work anyway.
So I let them think I am foolish, I moved out with 100% peace, and guess what, we are already on the plan to making bigger progress on the work front, after that work break-up.
Peace protects.
Too good