Hey Everyone,
Welcome to another edition of Raw and Real, where every week we have:
1 Raw and Real Conversation
2 Raw One-Liners
3 Real Gratitudes
Let’s go!
Raw and Real Conversation
All my life, I have been called under confident.
Most of which, I believe, is attributed to my nature of keeping quiet almost all of the time.
I did not ever crack mean jokes on a team call.
Or do not boast of “having achieved X” because of what I did.
Or I’m mostly careful of my words, because words hurt people like arrows.
The strangest part is most of this verbal onslaught was not from strangers. It is from people I then loved, trusted in, or thought were my close ones.
(It won’t be wrong if I say I draw my comfort and validation from being misunderstood. It takes off the pressure to fit into the herd, and do your own thing anyway.)
The best part, though, is, I have never felt the need to prove myself otherwise.
In reality, when all of this is happening, following are also happening:
Achievement of goals I never thought were possible
Health that most people end up calling you lucky
A lifestyle that people envy you to the extent of making fun behind your back
Inner peace that doesn’t crave for alcohol or more food in the name of “celebration”
A life which most people call boring but I enjoy it, even amidst problems
So, my friend, if at any time you are made fun of, for your greatest virtues, learn to be quiet.
You do not have to prove yourself to them. Or anyone else.
“Prove them wrong” is such a draining way of living your life. Don’t prove them wrong. Let them believe what they want to.
Here is why:
If people would want to understand, they would make an attempt to understand.
What others do to you is rarely about you. It is a reflection of their own conversation with themselves.
Misery loves company.
Know that the wisest, strongest, happiest people (the ones who truly are all of these, not the ones who wear a mask of all of these) will never ever pull you down.
Reminds me of one of my clients who says sorry if our WhatsApp call drops or if they receive a call by a delay of 10 minutes (by calling back). They are so good, they can get away by these tiny things, but still, they say sorry; which honestly surprises me each time.
Even a critical conversation from them would be helpful in the most precious ways.
You have only so much energy, my friend.
You cannot waste it on those who don’t have the courage to see you for who you are.
You have far better things to do :)
Raw One-Liners:
When you are kinder to someone who will be there for you even if you were unkind, you are the nicest person in the Universe.
The only secret recipe is putting yourself out there. Ask. Email. Promote. Do it often. “Something will land” isn’t just a hope, it is a strategy.
Real Gratitudes:
I have been pouring myself over Rhonda Byrne videos on YouTube these days, and let me tell you, you must watch them in order to gain complete freedom over yourself. And like every good thing, you must watch them often, because life is nothing but repetition.
To those of you who write how this email helped them. It is one of my biggest blessings of writing this newsletter :)
To the quiet confidence, because nothing else is louder :))
On that note, have a great weekend, my friend.
Stay raw, stay real.
Nishtha Gehija
Whenever you are ready, here are some of my ebooks that would help you (you can access them instantly):
The Corporate Life Handbook: The book everyone working a corporate job needs :)
The Career Changing Guide: My bestseller so far :)
How to Deal with Heartbreak: Because, life happens :(
Every Writer Needs to Read this: I wish I had this one, when I was starting out as a writer
This is What You are Looking for: Small Life Lessons for a Happier Life