5 weird rules that have made my life 5x better
And I think they will somewhere help you too
Rule 1: No tolerance for people with hate and flirtatiousness
If there is anyone that spreads hate in any comment or response, they are straight away blocked. Even if they might be someone who might benefit my business.
The same treatment goes for “Hi Nishtha, how are you” OR “I am in awe of you” kind of men. I am not here for dating or becoming your extra-marital thing, and no content of mine has ever pointed at that.
It makes life peaceful beyond measure.
Simple mantra that works:
You cannot come to my home with your trash and litter all around.
Rule 2: Don’t follow ANYONE
Think of the most influential person you can think of. I am personally inspired a lot by Virat Kohli, Roger Federer and Taylor Swift.
But the admiration is for the work they do and the kind of human beings they are.
I do not become their worshipper or an angry human on the internet to everyone who is not pro these people, because none of us is here to follow anyone.
Pick the best of everyone who think is good, and then go create your own self.
At this opportune moment, let us all remember what Taylor Swift said:
“You’re the only one of you, baby that’s the fun of you!!!”
Rule 3: No mood off season
Of the 1,000 benefits of reading daily and spiritual classes, one of the biggest benefits is to learn how to change your mood.
We feel the world owes us something when we are upset.
It doesn’t.
Day in and day out I have also experienced that the universe keeps getting rigged in your favour if you go out into the world with a lit up mood, not an angry burden of resentments and regrets.
Might as well talk to ourselves, switch up our mood, and learn the lessons for the next time.
Rule 4: No negativity rule. Especially no negativity to yourself.
Something I would never say to myself “I just cannot do _____”
This does not mean I do not face any difficulties in life.
What I rather do is tell God about my day every night, and every day multiple times during the day. And then go about my day.
I either land up with a solution at the right time, or I gather the courage to take myself to the solution, or I learn to live with it.
That is all you can do. That is all I think we need to.
Rule 5: No gossip rule
Gossip is like chatpata chat. You are drawn to it more than well-cooked and boiled meals. It seems tasty, attracts more people towards it, and irresponsible humans love being victims.
My fundamental rule is do not talk about people at their back, if you would not speak the same thing when they were around.
It takes effort and a ton of discipline. It also leaves me with so few friends. But I am left with the right friends, so to say.
Saves your energy for the rest of your life. And saves yourself too from the tyranny of loathing your own brethren.
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I am sure you live your life by some rules too, that make it 5X better. Let me know which one is it, so that I could also learn from it.
Last week when I was at my parents’ home I was going into the kitchen, when my father stopped me to share some wonderful news about our nation’s development that he just saw on TV.
I politely said, “I would love to chat with you (and I crave for that) but I do not want to put news about the world into my mind before sleeping.” And then followed that up with, “Koi satsang ki baat hai to chalo donon saath mein karte hain.” The tonality was soft, because he is father.
I am glad he understood and did not take it to the heart.
At the same time, you have to be the one protecting yourself. No one is coming to save you. But if you are there for yourself, everyone is coming there to support you in ways unlimited.
That is all for this week my friend.
See you next Saturday. Enjoy the long weekend.
Nishtha Gehija
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